Mending Heart

This inspiring me a lot. I take it from another site. This is really in my situation. May Allah light my way and give me the strength.

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-Getting over a broken heart is not as easy. Some will say "Just get over it" or by just saying "Go find a new partner, your life will be happy again". For people who are quite unlucky when it comes to love, it's quite hard especially to overcome the unstable emotions, the questioning "could have been" or "what if" stage, "blaming yourself" stage and some people will start asking the Almighty God things such as "Why is this happening to me? What did I do to deserve this?" Trust me, I have been in this situation before, May Allah have mercy on my soul, astaghfirullahaladzim :(

Along the broken hearted way, I've learned to know myself. I've learned to reflect, and importantly I've learned that life works this way - Allah knows what you're going to do, Allah knows what is waiting for you in the future but yet He still gives you a chance to make decisions and to decide. To fall in love and to fall out of love. Some call it will power. I called it... true love.

True love? You probably asking. Yeah. He knows what's best for me, but like a stubborn child I still wanna do it my way. And so He let me. In the end, I will realize that some things might just not gonna work like I want it to, some things are not good for me and my future, and I understand that He loves me so much that He is not going to let anything bad happen to me. He let me cry a pond now rather than cry an ocean later, and someday, I will understand that rainbow needs rain for it to shine. And everything will fall into the right place like it supposed to be.

All I need to do is trust Him.

But like everyone said, it is always easy to say than done. Therefore, I browse and read on the internet about how to mend a broken heart... the Islamic way. Actually this is my first time browsing the net for hadith and Islamic sites to help me :( ... And I'm using Quran as one of my sources to soothe my feelings. I read surah Al-Kahf and the translation over and over again.. and i found a few ayat that really help me to understand better why Allah afflicts me ( and us ) with trials.

18:7 "Indeed, We have made that which is on the earth adornment for it that We may test them [as to] which of them is best in deed."

Sesungguhnya Kami telah jadikan apa yang ada di muka bumi sebagai perhiasan baginya, kerana kami hendak menguji mereka, siapakah di antaranya yang lebih baik amalnya.

18:24

"Except [when adding], "If Allah wills." And remember your Lord when you forget [it] and say, "Perhaps my Lord will guide me to what is nearer than this to right conduct." "

Melainkan (hendaklah disertakan dengan berkata): "Insya Allah". Dan ingatlah serta sebutlah akan Tuhanmu jika engkau lupa; dan katakanlah: "Mudah-mudahan Tuhanku memimpinku ke jalan petunjuk yang lebih dekat dan lebih terang dari ini".

18:28 

"And keep yourself patient [by being] with those who call upon their Lord in the morning and the evening, seeking His countenance. And let not your eyes pass beyond them, desiring adornments of the worldly life, and do not obey one whose heart We have made heedless of Our remembrance and who follows his desire and whose affair is ever [in] neglect. "

Dan jadikanlah dirimu sentiasa berdamping rapat dengan orang-orang yang beribadat kepada Tuhan mereka pada waktu pagi dan petang, yang mengharapkan keredaan Allah semata-mata; dan janganlah engkau memalingkan pandanganmu daripada mereka hanya kerana engkau mahukan kesenangan hidup di dunia; dan janganlah engkau mematuhi orang yang Kami ketahui hatinya lalai daripada mengingati dan mematuhi pengajaran Kami di dalam Al-Quran, serta ia menurut hawa nafsunya, dan tingkah-lakunya pula adalah melampaui kebenaran.

18 : 110

"Say, "I am only a man like you, to whom has been revealed that your god is one God. So whoever would hope for the meeting with his Lord - let him do righteous work and not associate in the worship of his Lord anyone." "

Katakanlah (wahai Muhammad): "Sesungguhnya aku hanyalah seorang manusia seperti kamu, diwahyukan kepadaku bahawa Tuhan kamu hanyalah Tuhan Yang Satu; Oleh itu, sesiapa yang percaya dan berharap akan pertemuan dengan Tuhannya, hendaklah ia mengerjakan amal yang soleh dan janganlah ia mempersekutukan sesiapapun dalam ibadatnya kepada Tuhannya".

Always make doa to Allah to ease your hardship and pain. When Allah gives you trials, it means that He loves you so much and take this opportunity to get to know Allah swt and repent. It is not a sin to fall in love but love the right way.. If you're at the wrong way, repent to Allah swt. Allah swt knows that the secrets of all hearts. Healing may not come quickly but it will come. Remember with hardships there's ease. Not after hardships there's ease. We just couldn't see it. Allah's love and mercy comes in different ways.

As Yasmin Mogahed wrote in her blog :

Increase in your zikir (remembrance of Allah) and get closer to Allah. If you aren’t praying your daily prayers, fix that. Pray all and pray on time. Pray qiyam in the last third of the night (just before fajr). Make duaa, tawbah (repentance), cry, plead to Allah. This is your treatment.